sorry, mom.
sex work, socialism, and high heels
sorry, mom.
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"The requirement that a woman maintain a smooth and hairless skin carries further the theme of inexperience, for an infantilized face must accompany her infantilized body, a face that never ages or furrows its brow in thought. The face of the ideally feminine woman must never display the marks of character, wisdom, and experience that we so admire in men."
Sandra Lee Bartky, Foucault, Femininity and the Modernization of Patriarchal Power (via spittingonhegel)
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Dating while sex working
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rydenarmani:

2bainzz:

unclefather:

guitaristlink:

Come here, naughty girl

what u gonna do with that belt, skinny boy? ya clothes dont even fit u gonna run at me trying to hit me with the belt and u gonna trip over the bottom of ur pants like a adult sized toddler

wait why isnt he wearing shoes :(

bugs on the bed, bugs on the camera. get them bugs, white devil.

I can’t stop laughing at the fact that he’s wearing another belt. “This is my belt collection, I use this one to punish very naughty beds.”
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mqandmrs:

Alicia’s American Sign Language Dictionary.  Alicia is showing you four important signs in ASL:  ”I Love You,” “Queer,” “Bisexual,” and “Transgender.” 
When you’re talking about someone’s identity, make sure to only use words they’re OK with. 
If anyone has suggestions to improve these pages, they are very much welcome. 
Mq. & Mrs. is a queer/trans coloring book in progress that only uses real people as models.  New pages are published every Sunday at noon. Interested in modeling for a page? See our site for more info.  
mqandmrs:

Alicia’s American Sign Language Dictionary.  Alicia is showing you four important signs in ASL:  ”I Love You,” “Queer,” “Bisexual,” and “Transgender.” 
When you’re talking about someone’s identity, make sure to only use words they’re OK with. 
If anyone has suggestions to improve these pages, they are very much welcome. 
Mq. & Mrs. is a queer/trans coloring book in progress that only uses real people as models.  New pages are published every Sunday at noon. Interested in modeling for a page? See our site for more info.  
mqandmrs:

Alicia’s American Sign Language Dictionary.  Alicia is showing you four important signs in ASL:  ”I Love You,” “Queer,” “Bisexual,” and “Transgender.” 
When you’re talking about someone’s identity, make sure to only use words they’re OK with. 
If anyone has suggestions to improve these pages, they are very much welcome. 
Mq. & Mrs. is a queer/trans coloring book in progress that only uses real people as models.  New pages are published every Sunday at noon. Interested in modeling for a page? See our site for more info.  
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How the Financial Sector Is Making Life Miserable for Sex Workers
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"Black women are expected to use our anger only in the service of other people’s salvation or learning."
Audre Lorde, The Uses of Anger (via eshusplayground)
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ixnay-on-the-oddk:

ruletarusa:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video
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It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

wait, you actually dont see the fact that the only way a woman is more succesfull than a man is because of her sexuality, her ability to please them? that is what she is arguing, you can be whoever you want to be, but that doesn’t mean that you have to earn less because your choice is not sexual. That is the whole point of the video.

Sex work/sex workers isn’t/aren’t all about pleasing men, let’s just clear that up out of the gate. Also, I said that I understand the point they’re trying to get at, but they don’t use her explicit and crude description of her work in the adult industry as a way to empower the viewer or send a ‘respect her choice’ message. You, as a viewer, heard her words and decided that for yourself. I promise you there were people who watched that who didn’t immediately or eventually respect her confidence in her choice, because there was no actual call in the campaign to do so, and there are people who don’t believe in respecting sex workers choices, period, so that certainly wasn’t the point. The campaign uses her crudeness to make you, the general viewer, uncomfortable enough to reflect that that isn’t something other women should *have* to do to make an equal wage when you see the last two frames. Practically everything that Grey said was irrelevant by the end slates. The campaign advertisement really sends some conflicting messages about how we should feel about sex work when you’re introduced to the campaign’s only contribution, the conclusion for the message, which is to ‘find a better alternative’. I’m not saying everyone should do porn, not everyone is cut out for or would enjoy sex work, but don’t get a well known ex adult star to proudly reaffirm her choice just to say ‘but you don’t have to make that choice, don’t worry! let’s talk about wage gaps!’. They could have even made their point about porn without totally wasting Grey’s time bothering to be empowered by her choice when their (the campaign) only point is that her choice shouldn’t be one you have to make.
Not to mention, they completely invalidate their own point by keeping in the clip of her stating that as a nurse she was paid more than the doctors, who were most likely mostly men.
This ad is all kinds of confused, to be honest.

What the fuck did I just watch…?
ixnay-on-the-oddk:

ruletarusa:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video
Follow our Tumblr

It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

wait, you actually dont see the fact that the only way a woman is more succesfull than a man is because of her sexuality, her ability to please them? that is what she is arguing, you can be whoever you want to be, but that doesn’t mean that you have to earn less because your choice is not sexual. That is the whole point of the video.

Sex work/sex workers isn’t/aren’t all about pleasing men, let’s just clear that up out of the gate. Also, I said that I understand the point they’re trying to get at, but they don’t use her explicit and crude description of her work in the adult industry as a way to empower the viewer or send a ‘respect her choice’ message. You, as a viewer, heard her words and decided that for yourself. I promise you there were people who watched that who didn’t immediately or eventually respect her confidence in her choice, because there was no actual call in the campaign to do so, and there are people who don’t believe in respecting sex workers choices, period, so that certainly wasn’t the point. The campaign uses her crudeness to make you, the general viewer, uncomfortable enough to reflect that that isn’t something other women should *have* to do to make an equal wage when you see the last two frames. Practically everything that Grey said was irrelevant by the end slates. The campaign advertisement really sends some conflicting messages about how we should feel about sex work when you’re introduced to the campaign’s only contribution, the conclusion for the message, which is to ‘find a better alternative’. I’m not saying everyone should do porn, not everyone is cut out for or would enjoy sex work, but don’t get a well known ex adult star to proudly reaffirm her choice just to say ‘but you don’t have to make that choice, don’t worry! let’s talk about wage gaps!’. They could have even made their point about porn without totally wasting Grey’s time bothering to be empowered by her choice when their (the campaign) only point is that her choice shouldn’t be one you have to make.
Not to mention, they completely invalidate their own point by keeping in the clip of her stating that as a nurse she was paid more than the doctors, who were most likely mostly men.
This ad is all kinds of confused, to be honest.

What the fuck did I just watch…?
ixnay-on-the-oddk:

ruletarusa:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video
Follow our Tumblr

It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

wait, you actually dont see the fact that the only way a woman is more succesfull than a man is because of her sexuality, her ability to please them? that is what she is arguing, you can be whoever you want to be, but that doesn’t mean that you have to earn less because your choice is not sexual. That is the whole point of the video.

Sex work/sex workers isn’t/aren’t all about pleasing men, let’s just clear that up out of the gate. Also, I said that I understand the point they’re trying to get at, but they don’t use her explicit and crude description of her work in the adult industry as a way to empower the viewer or send a ‘respect her choice’ message. You, as a viewer, heard her words and decided that for yourself. I promise you there were people who watched that who didn’t immediately or eventually respect her confidence in her choice, because there was no actual call in the campaign to do so, and there are people who don’t believe in respecting sex workers choices, period, so that certainly wasn’t the point. The campaign uses her crudeness to make you, the general viewer, uncomfortable enough to reflect that that isn’t something other women should *have* to do to make an equal wage when you see the last two frames. Practically everything that Grey said was irrelevant by the end slates. The campaign advertisement really sends some conflicting messages about how we should feel about sex work when you’re introduced to the campaign’s only contribution, the conclusion for the message, which is to ‘find a better alternative’. I’m not saying everyone should do porn, not everyone is cut out for or would enjoy sex work, but don’t get a well known ex adult star to proudly reaffirm her choice just to say ‘but you don’t have to make that choice, don’t worry! let’s talk about wage gaps!’. They could have even made their point about porn without totally wasting Grey’s time bothering to be empowered by her choice when their (the campaign) only point is that her choice shouldn’t be one you have to make.
Not to mention, they completely invalidate their own point by keeping in the clip of her stating that as a nurse she was paid more than the doctors, who were most likely mostly men.
This ad is all kinds of confused, to be honest.

What the fuck did I just watch…?
ixnay-on-the-oddk:

ruletarusa:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video
Follow our Tumblr

It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

wait, you actually dont see the fact that the only way a woman is more succesfull than a man is because of her sexuality, her ability to please them? that is what she is arguing, you can be whoever you want to be, but that doesn’t mean that you have to earn less because your choice is not sexual. That is the whole point of the video.

Sex work/sex workers isn’t/aren’t all about pleasing men, let’s just clear that up out of the gate. Also, I said that I understand the point they’re trying to get at, but they don’t use her explicit and crude description of her work in the adult industry as a way to empower the viewer or send a ‘respect her choice’ message. You, as a viewer, heard her words and decided that for yourself. I promise you there were people who watched that who didn’t immediately or eventually respect her confidence in her choice, because there was no actual call in the campaign to do so, and there are people who don’t believe in respecting sex workers choices, period, so that certainly wasn’t the point. The campaign uses her crudeness to make you, the general viewer, uncomfortable enough to reflect that that isn’t something other women should *have* to do to make an equal wage when you see the last two frames. Practically everything that Grey said was irrelevant by the end slates. The campaign advertisement really sends some conflicting messages about how we should feel about sex work when you’re introduced to the campaign’s only contribution, the conclusion for the message, which is to ‘find a better alternative’. I’m not saying everyone should do porn, not everyone is cut out for or would enjoy sex work, but don’t get a well known ex adult star to proudly reaffirm her choice just to say ‘but you don’t have to make that choice, don’t worry! let’s talk about wage gaps!’. They could have even made their point about porn without totally wasting Grey’s time bothering to be empowered by her choice when their (the campaign) only point is that her choice shouldn’t be one you have to make.
Not to mention, they completely invalidate their own point by keeping in the clip of her stating that as a nurse she was paid more than the doctors, who were most likely mostly men.
This ad is all kinds of confused, to be honest.

What the fuck did I just watch…?
ixnay-on-the-oddk:

ruletarusa:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video
Follow our Tumblr

It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

wait, you actually dont see the fact that the only way a woman is more succesfull than a man is because of her sexuality, her ability to please them? that is what she is arguing, you can be whoever you want to be, but that doesn’t mean that you have to earn less because your choice is not sexual. That is the whole point of the video.

Sex work/sex workers isn’t/aren’t all about pleasing men, let’s just clear that up out of the gate. Also, I said that I understand the point they’re trying to get at, but they don’t use her explicit and crude description of her work in the adult industry as a way to empower the viewer or send a ‘respect her choice’ message. You, as a viewer, heard her words and decided that for yourself. I promise you there were people who watched that who didn’t immediately or eventually respect her confidence in her choice, because there was no actual call in the campaign to do so, and there are people who don’t believe in respecting sex workers choices, period, so that certainly wasn’t the point. The campaign uses her crudeness to make you, the general viewer, uncomfortable enough to reflect that that isn’t something other women should *have* to do to make an equal wage when you see the last two frames. Practically everything that Grey said was irrelevant by the end slates. The campaign advertisement really sends some conflicting messages about how we should feel about sex work when you’re introduced to the campaign’s only contribution, the conclusion for the message, which is to ‘find a better alternative’. I’m not saying everyone should do porn, not everyone is cut out for or would enjoy sex work, but don’t get a well known ex adult star to proudly reaffirm her choice just to say ‘but you don’t have to make that choice, don’t worry! let’s talk about wage gaps!’. They could have even made their point about porn without totally wasting Grey’s time bothering to be empowered by her choice when their (the campaign) only point is that her choice shouldn’t be one you have to make.
Not to mention, they completely invalidate their own point by keeping in the clip of her stating that as a nurse she was paid more than the doctors, who were most likely mostly men.
This ad is all kinds of confused, to be honest.

What the fuck did I just watch…?
ixnay-on-the-oddk:

ruletarusa:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video
Follow our Tumblr

It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

wait, you actually dont see the fact that the only way a woman is more succesfull than a man is because of her sexuality, her ability to please them? that is what she is arguing, you can be whoever you want to be, but that doesn’t mean that you have to earn less because your choice is not sexual. That is the whole point of the video.

Sex work/sex workers isn’t/aren’t all about pleasing men, let’s just clear that up out of the gate. Also, I said that I understand the point they’re trying to get at, but they don’t use her explicit and crude description of her work in the adult industry as a way to empower the viewer or send a ‘respect her choice’ message. You, as a viewer, heard her words and decided that for yourself. I promise you there were people who watched that who didn’t immediately or eventually respect her confidence in her choice, because there was no actual call in the campaign to do so, and there are people who don’t believe in respecting sex workers choices, period, so that certainly wasn’t the point. The campaign uses her crudeness to make you, the general viewer, uncomfortable enough to reflect that that isn’t something other women should *have* to do to make an equal wage when you see the last two frames. Practically everything that Grey said was irrelevant by the end slates. The campaign advertisement really sends some conflicting messages about how we should feel about sex work when you’re introduced to the campaign’s only contribution, the conclusion for the message, which is to ‘find a better alternative’. I’m not saying everyone should do porn, not everyone is cut out for or would enjoy sex work, but don’t get a well known ex adult star to proudly reaffirm her choice just to say ‘but you don’t have to make that choice, don’t worry! let’s talk about wage gaps!’. They could have even made their point about porn without totally wasting Grey’s time bothering to be empowered by her choice when their (the campaign) only point is that her choice shouldn’t be one you have to make.
Not to mention, they completely invalidate their own point by keeping in the clip of her stating that as a nurse she was paid more than the doctors, who were most likely mostly men.
This ad is all kinds of confused, to be honest.

What the fuck did I just watch…?
ixnay-on-the-oddk:

ruletarusa:

ixnay-on-the-oddk:

sizvideos:

Sasha Grey for Equal Pay Day - Video
Follow our Tumblr

It’s a pretty shitty feeling when you’ve just watched a famous ex porn star be allowed in a campaign to reaffirm her autonomy by embracing her time in the adult industry as a choice she is proud of, only to view the ending clip reading “find a better alternative.” Generally the only time people put money behind putting an ex adult film star in front of a camera is to discuss tragedies and injustices that happened to them while working in the industry, which is important and deserves attention, but I was excited by the chance of an ex adult star not having to publicly rebuke their experience just to be allowed to seem worth listening to. Yet the campaign pretty much dismisses what she says as an example of what women shouldn’t *have* to do to make an equal wage, yet her whole point was that it was a choice. I get what they’re getting at, but did they have to blatantly /use/ sex workers to make their point? Heavily let down by this one, personally. *shrug*

wait, you actually dont see the fact that the only way a woman is more succesfull than a man is because of her sexuality, her ability to please them? that is what she is arguing, you can be whoever you want to be, but that doesn’t mean that you have to earn less because your choice is not sexual. That is the whole point of the video.

Sex work/sex workers isn’t/aren’t all about pleasing men, let’s just clear that up out of the gate. Also, I said that I understand the point they’re trying to get at, but they don’t use her explicit and crude description of her work in the adult industry as a way to empower the viewer or send a ‘respect her choice’ message. You, as a viewer, heard her words and decided that for yourself. I promise you there were people who watched that who didn’t immediately or eventually respect her confidence in her choice, because there was no actual call in the campaign to do so, and there are people who don’t believe in respecting sex workers choices, period, so that certainly wasn’t the point. The campaign uses her crudeness to make you, the general viewer, uncomfortable enough to reflect that that isn’t something other women should *have* to do to make an equal wage when you see the last two frames. Practically everything that Grey said was irrelevant by the end slates. The campaign advertisement really sends some conflicting messages about how we should feel about sex work when you’re introduced to the campaign’s only contribution, the conclusion for the message, which is to ‘find a better alternative’. I’m not saying everyone should do porn, not everyone is cut out for or would enjoy sex work, but don’t get a well known ex adult star to proudly reaffirm her choice just to say ‘but you don’t have to make that choice, don’t worry! let’s talk about wage gaps!’. They could have even made their point about porn without totally wasting Grey’s time bothering to be empowered by her choice when their (the campaign) only point is that her choice shouldn’t be one you have to make.
Not to mention, they completely invalidate their own point by keeping in the clip of her stating that as a nurse she was paid more than the doctors, who were most likely mostly men.
This ad is all kinds of confused, to be honest.

What the fuck did I just watch…?
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Some thoughts on “Doms” I’ve met
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Q: I'm so happy I found your blog, I love it so much and everything you reblog is beautiful. Damn girl x
Asked by ladylucyloo
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Sex worker problems
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need
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"The fact that unequal power relations between men and women existed even prior to the advent of capitalism, as did a discriminating sexual division of labor, does not detract from this assessment. for in precapitalist Europe women’s subordination to men had been tempered by the fact that they had access to the commons and other communal assets, while in the new capitalist regime women themselves became the commons, as their work was defined as a natural resource, outside the sphere of market relations."
Caliban and the Witch, Sylvia Federici
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"

Among young black men in America, about 10 percent are currently incarcerated. It’s shocking, but we’ve almost grown used to it.

But while those young men are in prison, what’s happening to their wives, girlfriends, mothers and sisters?

Eviction. A new study coming out of Milwaukee shows that eviction is for black women what incarceration is for black men. One in 20 households there are evicted every year. In predominately black communities, that rate doubles to 1 in 10 families.

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USA: Eviction is for black women what incarceration is to black men

(via native-detroiter)

Post-racial America, y’all

(via foulmouthedliberty)

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"Quite honestly, my objection to rape jokes is not even because I particularly find the jokes personally triggering anymore; I generally just find them pathetic and inexplicable. And while I’m bothered by the fact that the jokes normalize and effectively minimize the severity of rape and thus perpetuate the rape culture, I’m more bothered by the thought of a woman who’s recently been raped, who’s just experienced what may be the worst thing that will ever happen to her, and goes to the site of her favorite webcomic, or turns on the telly, or goes to the cinema, or a comedy club, to have a much-needed laugh—only to see that horrible, life-changing thing used as the butt of a joke. I don’t understand—and I don’t believe I ever will—why anyone wants to be the person who sends that shiver down her spine, who makes her eyes burn hot with tears at an unwanted memory while everyone else laughs and laughs."
http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2010/08/survivors-are-so-sensitive.html